The Neurodiverse Couple

Education, insight, and guidance for the neurotypical woman whose partner is or may be autistic - from Sarah Swenson LMHC | SwensonCoaching.com | Swenson Coaching LLC

Welcome!

Is your partner autistic? Or do you think he might be? If so, you are a woman trying to navigate a challenging relationship and there aren't many resources available to you. Your friends may not understand. Your family probably doesn't, either. You've stopped trying to explain what you're experiencing in your relationship - the confusion, the loneliness, the frustration with a partner you love. Maybe you've even stopped trying to understand it yourself. If your partner is autistic, I designed these courses especially for you. If you're not certain, the course called MAYBE MY PARTNER IS AUTISTIC is a good place to start. You'll find the details explained below.

Why you're here . . .

You want to understand your relationship. You're not here to criticize your partner. You love him.

In these courses, we're not going to demonize autistic men. We're not going to view you as a victim, either.

Instead, we're going to explore why your reactions and responses make sense. You'll discover that you're not crazy, or mean, or selfish.

And this course is designed to help you understand your partner a little better. It's not easy being autistic in a neurotypical world.

I'm here to help you sort out the confusion; to show you that  developing understanding and compassion toward your partner will lead to compassion for yourself; and to help you chart a path toward healing that may not seem possible to you at the moment. 

I am creating these courses after many years of working as a therapist with women who, like you, are struggling to make sense of their relationships and want to figure out how to move forward.

My goal is to provide you with information based on sound clinical practice and experience including effective strategies so you can implement what you learn.

In most neurodiverse couples with whom I work, the man is autistic and the woman is not. It is important to remember that I also work with couples in which the man is neurotypical and the woman is autistic, and with gay and lesbian couples who are neurodiverse. These courses, though, have been developed with a neurotypical woman and her male autistic partner in mind. 

The Neurodiverse Couple

These courses present a comprehensive approach to the neurodiverse relationship, with a focus on your needs and experience. Topics include the following:

  • An exploration of neurodiversity: What is autism? What does it mean to be neurotypical?

  • Your unique experience: Why is your relationship so challenging? Why are you so lonely? Why is it so difficult to explain to friends and family?

  • Effective communication strategies to enhance your relationship

  • Guidance regarding choices you have for creating a sound and healthy future

Course 1 - Sorting It All Out: The Neurotypical and Autistic Worlds

We explore the subject of autism and what it means to be neurotypical. You will see the differences in how you each view reality and experience the world, and begin to understand how these differences affect your relationship. The course runs 3 hours 20 minutes, equivalent to four one-on-one sessions. View the introduction. Enroll below. $250.

Watch Intro Video

Introduction to the Course: Sorting It All Out

Course 2 - The Neurodiverse Relationship: Challenges to Love and Intimacy

We discuss what I call The Tragic Dance of the Neurodiverse Couple: love, conflicting emotions, unspoken expectations, and your sex life in light of what can change and what cannot. The course runs three hours, which is equivalent to four one-on-one sessions. There is a complimentary introduction so you can determine whether this course would be helpful to you. View the Introduction. Enroll below. $250.

Watch Intro Video

Introduction to the Course: Challenges to Love and Intimacy

Maybe you feel that you need more information before proceeding because you still have a question: could he be autistic?

Course: Maybe My Partner Is Autistic

This course is based on a discussion of twenty significant questions about your life to help you discern whether autism may be present.

  • Covers the main areas of potential conflict in the neurodiverse relationship to see whether they may be present in yours

  • Presents an exploration of your relationship to help you articulate and understand your own unique experience

  • Designed as comprehensive guide for exploring your hunch that your partner may be autistic, not as a diagnostic tool

Maybe My Partner Is Autistic

This is an exploration of behaviors and attitudes that might help you discern whether to consider autism in your partner. It is educational for you and not meant to be diagnostic. It is a place to start if you're unsure and would like to undertand autism as a root of behaviors you may not understand. This course runs three hours and is equivalent to four one-on-one sessions. Click to view the introduction, which will help you decide whether this course might be of interest to you. Enroll below. $250

Watch Intro Video

Introduction to the Course: Maybe My Partner Is Autistic

Course 3 - Communication Skills and Strategies

COMING SOON: We cover why you're so frustrated when you try to express your feelings; the verbal and nonverbal aspects of communication; the structure of argument; differences in processing times; how to break through old communication patterns and establish new ones. This course runs two hours. $250

Course 4 - Talking to Your Partner about Autism: Where Do You Start?

COMING SOON: What might you expect? What are your own expectations? What are your goals? And what if it doesn't go well? You'll understand how to create the best environment for successful conversation. This course runs two hours. $250

Course 5: If You Have Children

COMING SOON: The challenges are unique. What do the children need from you? We talk about children at home and children who are now out on their own. Are you wondering whether your children are on the spectrum? We also discuss broken relationships with adult children. This course runs two hours. $250

Course 6 - Your Life, Love, and Sense of Self

COMING SOON: Many women in neurodiverse relationships lose their sense of personal identify over time. Guilt, shame, depression can follow, overwhelming her. What happened? We will look at the woman you used to be and discuss ways to welcome her back into your life. This course runs two hours. $250

Course 7 - Talking to Friends and Family

COMING SOON: What are the considerations for bringing things up? This is especially challenging when you've been misunderstood or misjudged in the past. We'll talk about the very personal decision regarding what to disclose, why, when, and to whom. I'll also discuss privacy, both yours and your partner's. This course runs two hours. $250

Course 8 - Looking Forward Toward Your Future

COMING SOON: Deciding where to go from here requires a frank appraisal of what you can live with and what you cannot live without. We explore these questions and consider possibilities for reformatting your relationship. A new territory requires a new map, but this doesn't always mean divorce. This course runs two hours. $250

Course 9 - Communication Workshop for the Neurodiverse Couple

COMING SOON: This course is an intensive workshop format for you and your partner to take together. We explore ten areas of your relationship through questionnaires designed to help you begin to frame your communication more effectively and increase intimacy. This course runs three and a half hours. $600

Your Instructor

Licensed Mental Health Counselor

Sarah Swenson

For many years, I have had the privilege of working with neurodiverse couples as a therapist in Seattle. I created an international online coaching practice to support these couples around the world. The other focus of my practice is working with high intelligence. Because there are not many therapists or coaches specialized in this unique and complex field, I offer these classes to make sound clinically-based information and guidance available to everyone.

Questions You May Have

  • How long will I have access to my course?

    Once you enroll, you will have permanent access. You may log in and out as your schedule permits and there is no limit on how much time you spend in a course.

  • What if a course is not what I expected it to be?

    Your experience in my courses is of utmost importance to me. If you're not satisfied, please let me know immediately and I will issue a refund.

  • Now that I've learned from your courses, how can I find a coach or a therapist to work with?

    I suggest using one of the directories such as GoodTherapy.org or PsychologyToday.com. Search for someone who understands neurodiversity, both the autistic and neurotypical ways of being in the world, not only academically and clinically, but also from personal experience. I encourage you to ask a prospective therapist or coach specific questions about their experience so you can make an informed decision. Conventional therapeutic modalities designed for neurotypical couples tend to be ineffective with neurodiverse couples.

  • Is there a way to work with you individually or as a couple?

    Currently, my practice is full, though it is sometimes possible to schedule an intensive 3-hour couple session. If this interests you, please contact me by email. Also, in order to accommodate the many inquiries from around the world, I offer workshops in various cities in the United States and in Europe. If you are interested in attending a workshop, please let me know which cities are convenient for you and I will contact you when events are scheduled. I work in English and also speak Italian and German.

  • Are you my therapist?

    I offer these courses as education. Taking a course on this site doesn't create a professional relationship between us.

Three Important Ideas

  • The woman inside

    She's not gone, that woman you once were. All your dreams and hopes can be re-animated.

  • Your tender heart

    All the love you give, all the love you need - your emotional wellbeing is the central focus of these classes.

  • Finding your way

    What are your choices? Understanding them will help you chart a meaningful and rewarding future.

Sarah Swenson LMHC

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